Worry, anxiety, and stress seem to knock on doors quite often. As a single mom I assure you that these unwanted pests seem to be at my door quite often. I know that if I feed these feelings I can almost always count on being miserable and making those around me miserable. But worry creates confusion and it suggests we are not trusting God.
It’s not easy to stop worrying but I have found that these four things can help:
1. Lay all requests before God with thanksgiving. This is the first step in battling thoughts which is where feelings are stirred and trouble begins.
2. It’s a good idea to consider the blessings in our lives.
3. Do something nice for someone else because it takes our mind off ourselves.
4. Another great idea that works well for me is to run away for the day and enjoy God’s beautiful creation. My daughter and I will take off for the beach, a park or somewhere different. We might simply want to have a photo shoot which allows us to really capture and appreciate nature, each other, and the simple things in life.
Spending quality time with family is very important. These are the moments where our focus is on them. We listen, encourage, and spend time doing something together. Do something special and nurture your relationships. Plant a miniature garden in a pot and spend time caring for it as a family.
When we give time caring for something or someone it has the opportunity to flourish and become a beautiful and stunning garden of purpose and hope.
Where man sees but withered leaves, God sees sweet flowers growing. ~Albert Laighton
I recently found this photograph that I now leave tucked in my journal. It is an old photo of my daughter taken fourteen years ago. Every time I see it I smile. It’s not a perfect picture, not the beautiful one parents boast about, but it’s my favorite. It stirs the sweet memory of my daughters humor when she was very young.
Out of the blue (pardon the idiom) my daughter would strike this funny face to make me laugh. It was always this face. Of course I would laugh and then she would laugh. It was a precious moment. Since these moments were always spontaneous I feel blessed to have captured it on film. I am still laughing with the little bundle of joy who has now grown into a lovely young woman.
Do you have a photograph that makes you smile every time you see it? Tuck or paste it in your journal. You’ll be glad you did!
Are you confused by the response of others?
Is your response to others misunderstood?
Having a rich understanding of personality types can help you have patience when dealing with others.
We each have our own unique personality which often includes many strengths and weaknesses. How we process things, how we learn, our social interactions, how we deal with family, friends and others, and even how we react to stress or lead are all heavily influenced by our personalities. And if this is so, then understanding personality traits will help encourage us to accept those differences, help us in raising children, dealing with relationships, both personal and business, young and old.
Taking a reputable personality test, such as the Myers-Briggs test can be a valuable means to understanding yourself and others much better. I do caution you not to let personality tests define you. They are only a means of understanding. Even the same-type personality will not all behave the same. Value systems differ, fears, hopes and life experiences all play an important role as well.
The Myers-Briggs test narrow personalities to approximately 16 types. My daughter and I took the test and it was interesting to find how accurate the personality traits fit us both. Knowledge of personality types can help avoid misunderstandings and allows one to see more clearly the correct approach to any given situation.
For example, some people need more solitude (such as myself, an INFJ) to be able to focus and gather their thoughts. If family members understand this need then they will not be offended when the person wishes to be alone for a time. Some people have a tendency to be more sensitive to others feelings but keep their own feelings inside (such as my daughter, an ISFJ). So if I know this is the personality trait of my child, it helps me to recognize the need to set aside quality time for conversation so that she is comfortable expressing herself.
Even if you never take a personality test, make an effort to understand that their are differences and it is not fair to expect every person to think and act the same way we do. That would certainly be boring!
Want more information? Click here to learn more about the Myers-Briggs personality types.
If we are to leave a legacy of faith we need to teach our children Biblical truths and set the example we teach. We must make our words matter. There is nothing more worthy that I could leave my child than a legacy of faith.
Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them. Deuteronomy 4:9 (NIV)